So, this year I have been thinking a LOT about girl power. What does it mean? How do we achieve it? How do we define it in our own terms? How do we live our lives as the (pardon my French) BADASS females that we are? I have collected a lot of thoughts regarding this topic and finally, I feel like I am ready to write about it all. With writing, though, sometimes we have to be careful as we tip toe around certain lines. So, a short disclaimer: this is NOT a cynical blog, this is NOT in any way saying that women are better than men (although we are still always right, hehe), and this blog is also NOT saying that we, as women, are this liberated all over the world. Because, unfortunately, we are not, but hopefully we will get there. This blog is about confidence, about coming together as female forces and overcoming our own personal adversities: our raging emotions, our self-image issues, our constant need for reassurance and relationships. This is about finding whatever it is that we seek in others in ourselves. This is about lifting each other up as strong females. To put it simply, it is about girl power.
People… we are living in the 21st century. This is a time when women have more power and strength than ever before, and we have worked hard to get to this point. We should embrace that fact and truly live up to our potential. It should be RAINING girl power. I cannot say that I don’t have plenty of moments where my girl power levels are seriously out of commission, but I think this blog can help me with that. And I hope it can help you too. Here is to you my fellow females. This is my guide to girl power. It is what I have learned in my own personal escapades as a maturing young lady who is vastly approaching the real world.
First, I would like to share a quote.
“Here’s to strong women.
May we know them.
May we be them.
May we raise them.”
Think about what this quote means to you. To me, this extends beyond listening to Beyonce in the shower. This means that we are an unstoppable force of women. We should find what it means to be a strong woman, and then help those around us be them too, and our kids, and our grandkids, etc. Being a woman comes with so many prices, but also so many triumphs. So what can a 19-year-old girl who is just figuring out herself tell the world about girl power? I can tell you that it takes a village, but not just any village. It takes a village of confident and bold women, to get this movement going. So I want you all to treat this information like it’s the Nordstrom’s Anniversary Sale & pass it along to your favorite ladies!!!!
The Rules of Girl Power:
- Girl Power is not a simple, unanimously defined term.
With that being said, be your own kind of girl power. Do what makes you feel electric, radiate positive energy, and just be a better human. Compliment people when they deserve it, speak up, be yourself, and most of all, cherish those that lift you up & give you life. Whatever puts the razzle in your dazzle.
2. Live life like Carrie Bradshaw.
In all honesty I’m currently binge-watching Sex & the City so this is most definitely at the forefront of my mind, but is she not goals?!! (besides the tiny 90s sunglasses — oy vey) If you are a female (or male, I don’t judge) and haven’t seen Sex & the City then literally drop whatever important thing you’re doing now and start because it is the EPITOME of girl power. It is the combination of two of my favorite words: fabulous & badass. But in all seriousness, if you haven’t seen the show, Carrie is what we as females should look up to: she is empathetic, natural, an amazing friend, and bold. With that being said, this could be anyone. It is important to have role models. Live life like Oprah, or Sophia Bush, or your grandma.
3. Stop placing your self-worth in the hands of others.
Don’t make me go off on some philosophical tangent because we all know I am fully capable and will do it if necessary, but this idea is one of the main reasons I decided to write this blog. I am so tired of my lady pals placing all of their self worth in the hands of others, particularly some dingus who screws people over. Do not give them that gratification ladies. This concept is simple yet us girlies are the self-created victims of this. Putting it simply, stop. Also, a side note, if you are letting guys have this power over you, you are ruining it for the rest of us. You are setting the bar low and enabling this type of behavior. Just know that you are so much more than what you’re probably settling for. To be fair, it is a beautiful thing to have someone else be able to define you, but do not give it all to them because then if they leave, what is left of yourself?
4. Girl Code.
Along with girl power, comes GIRL CODE. I do not mean the MTV show (is that even still on, does anyone know?) But I mean seriously just don’t be a witch to each other! If we are going to be a force, we cannot be one without having each others backs. Girls are mean… but honestly just cut the crap. Don’t hook up with your friends’ baes, don’t be two-faced, don’t be RUDE (said in the most Kardashian way possible). If the women in your life do not make you a better person, they’re not worth your time. If a fellow female has toilet paper on the back of her shoes, tell her. If a stranger needs a tampon, give one to her. Let your friends vent to you, without judgment. On a more serious note, if a girl is too drunk and going home with a guy and it seems unwanted, even if you don’t know her, get in there and intervene. Somehow, we are created to have these female instincts, yet people will go out of their way to be nasty. If you don’t follow the code, you really cannot expect it from other girls!
5. Be yourself in the most wild, unapologetic way.
If you keep up with my blogs you know that I am a mega, ultra, super people pleaser so this is really difficult for me. And truth be told that’s probably why I left about 50 disclaimers before beginning my blog. But I’m working on it. I am trying to tell myself and my peeps over and over that we should never apologize for being ourself, for speaking our mind, or for being fearless & mad. For being clumsy (I included this because I spilled a crap ton of foundation all over my hands at Ulta yesterday and about 1/4 of my iced tea on my white shirt today). Remember not to take anything too seriously, including yourself.
These are just some of the many rules of girl power, but one of the last rules is that straight up and simply said, we have to look out for each other and be there for each other. We have to have expectations: for ourselves, for other people. So why did I decide to write this? Well so many reasons, but one of them is probably you. I am just following the rules of the game and spreading the love to all of the amazing ladies out there. If you are reading this, I hope I could help you realize that you are more than you believe that you are, and if all of us really embrace that, then we are going to be one hell of a tribe.